Uriel Oputa Considering Having A Child Due To Mother’s Dementia
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2017 Big Brother Naija ex-housemate, Uriel Oputa has taken to her Instagram page to open up to her fans about her mother’s failing health and how it is making her consider the option of having a child in an unconventional way.
According to the reality TV star, December will make it four years since she has been celibate as she hasn’t dated in the last four years. She went on to add that celibacy is her way of saving herself from getting hurt again.
However, Uriel is contemplating having a child due to her mother who is suffering from dementia and could soon forget everything, including her children. As opposed to her earlier intentions of waiting till she meets a man and marries to have a child, she is now contemplating other options. This is because her mother’s health may have further deteriorated before she meets a man to settle with.
Expressing her concerns, Uriel said:
“My mum… If I leave it any longer and I don’t meet anybody anytime soon, she won’t remember my child. Even if I were to introduce my child to my mum, and she’s at her later stages of her illness, no connection, she will just… nothing. She’s already on her way out. And that made me angry. It made me angry.
I’ve never questioned religion in any way and I never will question religion… never question God, but I question my morals and for me that was deep.
I question my morals in the sense of, I said to myself, ‘what if I wanted to have a child in order for my child and for me to give my mum the chance to have a connection with my child before she goes?’ Because, my mum is going to forget the memories that we cherished together…”
In tears, Uriel narrated a cherished memory she fears her mother will forget.
“And she’ll forget all of that. She’ll forget my name. So while she’s still there just a little bit, would it be such a bad idea for me to have a child? And that thought crossed my head and I was like, ‘no no no. It’s not culturally… It’s not right culture-wise. People might look down at me. People might say, ‘you’re wrong’, ‘I hate you’ or ‘you’re setting a bad example’. So in what situation does a situation become morally right.”
“Put your self in this shoe, and I’m not saying that I’m going to do it, but if you was in my position, would you say having a child whatever way – artificial insemination or whatever – is wrong? Is it morally right or wrong? You guys decide and let me know. It’s a very interesting topic and I wanted to share that with you.”